She picks her nose at the dinner table then digs into the salad bowel with her hands. She farts aloud anywhere. She dirties sheets and towels with lotions, oils and honey she puts on her skin and leaves oily fingerprints all around. She wears filthy clothing and expects you to wash them. She grabs foods, medicines and sucks on bottles of cooking ingredients and spreads them around the house. She jabbers baby talk in a shrill voice, argues with family, demands her way and insists she is right especially when proven wrong. You suggest something for her chronic acne or nail fungus but she knows better and you can’t help. She/he is the houseguest from Hell too (old, dumb, stubborn, or etc.) to change. Fretting about the invasion ruins sleep and makes you want to kill. Are your thoughts unreasonable, angry or obsessive? You have to reduce the effects of stress on yourself.
What to do?
Put a small finger bowl in front of guests before meals
Limit time spent with the guest or relative and schedule time alone to relax
Separate the guest’s bedding, linens, clothing
Hide foods, medicines, and clothing you want to keep private
Practice a form of meditation
Reaffirm activities that define you such as your work, art, gardening, etc.
Find a natural remedy that works to soothe your nerves.
Suggestions according to symptoms:
Obsessive thoughts?
Most people can think of an occasion where a strange thought, unhappy event or argument pops into their heads for no apparent reason, but usually most people are able to dismiss them relatively easily. However, some people find it difficult to detach from these thoughts and ruminate over them obsessively. Over time, these obsessive thoughts can become very hard to manage and the more the person tries to forget about them, the stronger and more frequent the thoughts become. This results in persistent, unwanted thoughts and mental arguments going round and round in their heads like a stuck record, with sufferers finding it increasingly hard to concentrate during the day or to sleep at night.
The sufferer may appear inattentive to others around them and find it difficult to concentrate on conversation. Some people who experience obsessive thoughts about things they find profoundly disgusting and distressing, could be suffering from Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). Other people, who most likely do not suffer from OCD, tend to ruminate excessively over day to day worries and concerns such as arguments, personal resentments and unhappy events. OCD is thought to affect around 3% of the population. If you obsessively think about things that disgust you to the point that they cause you a lot of distress, there is a good chance you suffer with OCD. Here is a list of common obsessions that suffers of OCD experience:
•Fears of contamination by germs, dirt or chemicals
•Fears of flooding the house, accidentally causing a fire, or being burgled
•Concerns about exactness or symmetry
•Excessively doubting own morals or religious convictions
•A need to tell, ask or confess
Natural remedies
Natural remedies can be of use to both people who ruminate excessively and sufferers of OCD.
•Bach Original Flower Remedies such as White Chestnut can promote peace of mind and clear thinking for people who experience obsessive, worrying thoughts. Rescue Remedy can help restore inner calm, control and focus when day to day stressful situations arise. (Always read the label.)
•Body balance work such as yoga, shiatsu and massage have been found to help some sufferers to relax.
•The Alexander Technique could be beneficial in managing your emotions in a healthier way.
•Meditation has been found to help some people who experience obsessive thoughts. There are meditation classes available in most cities if you find it difficult to meditate alone, or there are many meditation tapes available on DVD or online.
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In addition to officially recognized methods of treatment, there are also a lot of homeopathic remedies that help in the removal of obsession and compulsion. It is important to note that homeopathy treats man as a whole, which means that choosing homeopathic medicine must consider all about medical history, constitution, genetic predisposition for a certain disease, current status and symptoms and characteristics of personality. Only after establishing the necessary facts should access the selection of drugs for specific patients. The following homeopathic remedy has been suggested for obsessive thinking, but it may or may not work for you:
Natrum mur. is a homeopathic remedy that may be applied in the cases of:
•anxiety, indifference, loquacity, irritability
•hurry, impatience, fear of humans and diseases
•forgetfulness, disability, poor concentration
•exhaustion of thinking, intellectual work and discussions
•hate and anger that are very easily caused by
•unstoppable laughter to tears, even when something isn’t funny
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Another combination homeopathic remedy is called “Anger – soothe” homeopathic remedy. Anger-Soothe is a 100% homeopathic formula and contains the following ingredients in therapeutic dosage: Chamomilla (6C), Citricidal extract, Lycopodium (6C), Nux vom (6C), Peppermint.